Dear Melody,
This year, I have fallen for a shy guy in one of my classes. I really like him, but I'm not sure how to get him to notice me! I want to make the first move, but he is shy, and I don't want to intimidate him. Please help!
-Confused
Dear Confused,
I know exactly how it feels to have a crush on someone! You are definitely not alone.
You are smart in thinking about the possibility of him being scared off by you if you approach him too boldly. But, if you want to start a relationship with him, you will have to make the first move. How will he notice you if he doesn't see how cool you are?
Start off by casually passing by and say "Hi!" with confidence and a smile. I'd advise you to only do it once to avoid scaring him off. If you do it more then once, there is the possibility of him getting embarrassed by his friends and being turned off by you. You don't want that!
By doing it once, you will not be overdoing it in terms of making the first move, and he will become aware of you. You will be allowing him time to let your words sink in.
If you happen to see him passing by in the halls, say hi then too! Focus on becoming friends first and seeing if you like his personality before you focus on being in a relationship with him.
After you have made the first move, stand by the sidelines and wait for him to make the first move. If he unfortunately doesn't make the first move, he may not like you back in that way or he may simply just be too shy. In that case, let him go and move on. There will be plenty of guys in the future!
There are plenty of fish in the sea, as they say. I hope my advice has helped you! Good luck with your crush!
~Melody
